I consider myself to have 2 sisters.
1 birth sister.
My birth sister told me tonight that I am not allowed to like my sister-in-law more than her.
Here's the thing, my birth sister and I are very close, or at least we have been very close the past few years, but since she has fallen in love and gotten married and all that, she never has time to spend with me, and it feels as though she has pretty much fallen off the face of my world, or at least has moved onto her own little world which doesn't include people who have poured so much into her life.
Am I bitter?
Perhaps a little, perhaps today, perhaps it will pass, perhaps it won't.
My sister-in-law, on the other hand, and I have never really been close. Not because I haven't wanted to, but we are very different and it has been difficult to find points of interest to connect on. However, recently that has changed. She has become a bookkeeper, and she has been working with me. We have had the opportunity these last several months to spend many many hours together, laugh together, be frustrated together, celebrate together, etc. It's been a great experience getting to know her better & vice versa.
And now when I see my birth sister, my stories seem to gravitate towards "Vicki this" and "Vicki that" and all these good fun stories of experiences Vicki & I are sharing through our work, and through the fun times we are having here at home with Chris & the kids.
And then Kerri tells me I'm not allowed to like Vicki more than her, and this presumption, this sense of ownership over my affection simply because of history, is crap. She can't have the benefits of being my favorite sister without the involvement of actually relating to me.
And that's that.
She did buy us all dinner tonight, so maybe that's her attempt at involvement. Still kind of lame though - not dinner, just the way the relationship has gone down the tubes because apparently nothing matters these past 6 months to a year besides her own little tiny world & whatever is benefitting to her.